The host opens with friendly greetings, asks how viewers are doing, and expresses care and presence. This short intro sets a compassionate tone for the rest of the video.
The host opens with friendly greetings, asks how viewers are doing, and expresses care and presence. This short intro sets a compassionate tone for the rest of the video.
The speaker describes a recent staff meeting where feedback left them unsettled, prompting questions about fit and purpose in their role. This personal anecdote frames the video's exploration of needing others to hear you.
They explain how talking only to yourself can be unhelpful and how stress can shut down your nervous system, preventing access to needed resources. A metaphor about deliveries illustrates why support from others can be essential.
The speaker asks who in your life should hear particular thoughts, noting that different people serve different roles depending on the situation. This section helps viewers consider tailored sources of support.
Viewers are invited to write down their go-to people and practice inviting them in with specific requests—such as asking someone to hold what you're feeling or to share what they'd do. The video ends with encouragement and a friendly goodbye.
Hey, Cadre. Hey, hey, Cadre. How are you? You good? I really hope so. But if you're not good, that's okay. Here's life, right? Life is the up, life is the down, speak, wonder. But I'm glad that I'm here. I'm glad that you're here. I know the things I know and I care about you. Yesterday I was in a staff meeting with one of the leaders that I report to in one of the organizations I work with and I'm asking for some clarity and some direction. I'm offering my perspective and my insights and being engaged and all the things.
And all of a sudden they share that, in essence, I'm stressing them out and they need to go. At least that was my interpretation. And it it set me into a weird mind place. I always like, I'm a do the right thing person. I was the kid who likes to know that the teacher sees that I'm trying really hard to help them be successful as teacher, as leader, so and so forth. So in this moment where my attempting to do that frustrated the boss, it didn't feel good. And I've been in the journey of going, huh, is this a right space for me to be in?
Is this the right work I should be doing in this space? And I started having that conversation in my head. Who needs to hear what you have to say. In other words, in my example, I started thinking, I'm like, huh, me having this conversation by myself isn't helping. So I started going, who would be a good person for me to say, hey, other person, here's what I'm experiencing. What do you think? Or even, Here's what I'm experiencing. Can you hold that? Can you be a vessel so the things in my head don't only live in my head, but they live in someone else's head?
So at another time, they could ask, Hey, that thing you shared with me, how is that? Quite often, our nervous system, when it goes into its wonderful efficiency and proficiency in design, it will shut down or shut in or close in. Our sympathetic system is going to shutter the doors when it feels like the storm is coming to protect us from it. But sometimes the thing we need is not within our little cottage that we are now shuttered into, but it's on the outside and it's needing a DoorDash or an Uber Eats delivery of someone bringing something that we do not possess.
So my question today is who needs to hear the things that you have going on inside your head? Who are your people? And those people will probably be different for different things. I talk to this person about this. I talk to this person about this. This is my friend in this situation, my confidant in that situation. But who are those people in those situations? Today I invite you to write them down and bonus if you can, if you need to, to invite them in with your words, with your, Hey, I need you to hear me.
I need you to hold something with me. I need your, I'm not an advice giver, but I know other people are, I need your advice on. And maybe a milder version of advice is, Hey, I don't need your advice. I don't need you to tell me what to do, but I am curious to know what you would do in my situation. It's kind of a second-handed or a third person variation of advice giving. That may work for you as well. But hey, no matter where you are, no matter what's going on, I hope you have a great day. I'll see you tomorrow.
