Cadre Today

Foreign. Hey everybody. Day by day show enough Mel Myers how you doing? Some happy summer Sad Good morning, Lou. Music play Speak Wander how you doing on the lake today? All you need is a way to make him smile it Think what to do if you know how Got to take a message Keep it on through don't you ask me why Pause how's everybody doing today? I hope you're doing great. I really, really do. And if you're not doing great, guess what? Duck off waters back yo. You're gonna be okay. And I'm not saying that as if what you're going through isn't heavy and real, but the world will try to tell you that when you're not doing great, that you need to do better.

You don't need to do nothing. And you are still highly capable of doing some pretty remarkable things, even if you are less than you were yesterday. So. So thanks for taking a couple of minutes being right here right now. I'm glad that I'm here. I'm glad that you're here. I know what I know and I care about you. You know, I used to be a high school tennis coach. And if you haven't figured this out, because maybe it doesn't show up in my Cadre todays, but I'm horribly intense, like intense about things that appear to be really little that I think are really, really big.

So I often don't let things go down cultural normative pathway without calling out that that's what's happening. Cultural normative, meaning the thing that happens most of the time for the most people so that most people don't realize that something's happening. So when I was a high school tennis coach, when we would get to the end of the season, a lot of other programs would name their captains for next year by having the teammates write down on the piece of paper who they would think that they would want to have captain and that's how captains would be decided.

In my brain I'm like, no. Like, that makes no sense. Like, this is a power position of power, a huge responsibility. And you're going to have people write names down on a piece of paper of whoever comes to mind. Who's going to come to mind? The people who are cultural normative, the people who are their best friends, the people who have been around the longest, the people who have all these things that actually don't set someone up to be a great leader. So I designed this algorithm that, you know, everybody on the team would fill out, you know, one to fives on everybody and everything was weighted differently.

And then I would have, at the end of the time, here are our captains. And sometimes they would be our freshmen. Sometimes they'd be our quiet kids, Sometimes they'd be our worst player. Yada, yada, yada. After a while, everybody got used to how the system worked, didn't necessarily like it. Most of them came to appreciate it. A lot came to respect it. And some saw it was our superpower. But here's the thing. I wanted to raise up today. After everything would be calculated, I would, in secret, go up to the people who are chosen one by one and be like, hey, so you've been named captain.

And it's funny, because they would all be like, oh, my gosh, really? And I'm like, what are you excited about? First of all, being captain's stressful. If you say yes, you're gonna now enjoy your sport less than everybody else, because your job is to help everybody enjoy more. But you'll get more out of it. But you'll enjoy it less. The second thing I would say is, and also, you haven't earned anything you do. You haven't done anything yet. You've been given the opportunity to do something. So I really don't know what you're excited about, kid.

And they'd go, oh. And they'd be like, wait, so is this a good thing or a bad thing? I'm like, it's a great thing, but it's a great thing that represents the beginning and the beginning of a harder time in your life and a harder time that may bring you probably, most probably will bring you more fruit and more joy. And then I would make them decide, do you actually want to do this? And 30% of the time, they'd say, no, I want to enjoy my sport. I want to be taken care of. I want to keep doing this thing in the way that I know that I love doing it.

And those 30% of kids are some of the most successful people I know in this world. The ones who said no to the thing that everybody says you're supposed to say yes to. They were the ones who were seeing where their future most brightly lay. And I invite you to do the same thing today. What's the loud thing? What's the opportunity that's put on your plate that's saying, ah, here's what we need to do, and it needs to be all and better and big, and this is the way. And this is the. And you go, yeah, I'm gonna do something else.

Thanks, but no thanks. You will change the world in the ways that will fill your cup. And most often, in the ways that the world needs you to be changing it. So what's the thing that you can say no to? And it may not be today. Maybe in the next month, maybe in the next year, maybe in the next decade. Where you go, oh, my gosh. I remember when JC said, xyz, Try it on and see what happens. We'll see you tomorrow. Y' all have a good Tuesday.