This orients viewers to the channel and upcoming schedule. Rachel explains that extra time, energy, or mental space is an opportunity to imagine what you want and suggests practices like vision boarding, scrapbooking, brainstorming, and talking with trusted people.
Rachel opens the live, troubleshoots technical hiccups and her dog Milo's interruptions, and shares that she just got a new job and a new regular livestream time. This orients viewers to the channel and upcoming schedule.
She frames the episode around what happens when we release relationships, identities, or expectations and how that sudden lightness can feel confusing or scary. The segment defines levity and sets up why we might struggle with newfound freedom.
Rachel explains that extra time, energy, or mental space is an opportunity to imagine what you want and suggests practices like vision boarding, scrapbooking, brainstorming, and talking with trusted people. The focus is on dreaming without pressure to immediately act.
Using the idea that 'work begets work,' she urges viewers to take a next step even if it's not the final goal, since each choice opens more doors. She also emphasizes holding visions loosely so you can remain flexible and pivot as needed.
Rachel acknowledges how unfamiliar lightness can feel, reads a viewer comment about going to an event alone as an example of letting go, and affirms the value of new experiences. She closes with logistics about a longer video and her new Tuesday livestream time, plus gentle reminders to hydrate and give yourself space to dream.
Hello? Is this working? I got an error. Milo. Milo, please stop. He barks when he hears my dog barking. Milo. I hope this works. When I just tried to do it, I got like a big black screen. So I hope this is actually live. We shall see. This is one of my. Milo. This is going to be my new scheduled live time. I just got a new job, so I'm a 9 to 5 girly now. So. Oh, hello, Rachel. Okay, it is working. So my new live stream time will be Tuesdays at 5pm PST. And hi. Hello. Hello. Okay, I am so glad it's working.
So yeah, wow. Lots of changes over here in Rachel land in Rachel's room. Yeah, so today I am gonna talk a little bit about what happens like when we let go of things and or like end something or like make a hard decision and hey Luke. And like sort of this weird, the weird experience that happens when we let go of something and things feel like lighter and how sometimes that can be really confusing if we're used to things feeling really heavy or chaotic and what to do with that freedom, both internally and externally.
And and it's kind of it's kind of odd to like to say like coping with things being lighter because it feels like things being lighter should be a good thing. But oftentimes if we're really accustomed to life feeling heavy or burdensome or chaotic, it can feel really uncomfortable when life feels light. So when, and I'm just gonna use letting go, like as an example, like when we let go of something, whether that's like a relationship or maybe a version of ourselves or a part of ourselves that we've been wanting to let go of, or an expectation or an idea that we had about our future.
anything that we hold onto, right? And I think we know, we all know like what the things we hold onto are. And when we let go of something, we feel lighter and that levity can feel terrifying because suddenly it feels like we need to grab onto something else, right? Like as soon as we've let go of something, it feels like we have to grab onto something else because sometimes we sort of equate that weight that we were once holding onto as an anchor, when in reality it's It's not actually our anchor.
And so what do we do when we experience that freedom or that levity? And how do we allow ourselves to be in that space without immediately grabbing onto something else? And that can be really, really hard. It can be really hard. And oftentimes, though, when we're in that space of levity, when we have more freedom, whether it's more like actual time or energy or mental space, that's when we can start to actually dream. Like that's when we start to actually think about things that we want in our life, life lives in our lives, what we want for our future.
And, and we can start to imagine, right? And so giving ourselves time in that space to dream is Really crucial. And again, can be very difficult to do when life has been hard historically for us to let ourselves dream because we're really accustomed to life not going our way. We're accustomed to bad things happening. We're accustomed to either shoe dropping. So dreaming also feels like sometimes like, well, I'm not allowed to do that. I'm not the kind of person that gets to dream. I'm not the kind of person that gets to imagine a life I want for myself because that's not how life has gone for me in the past.
But the reality is that you are absolutely deserving of the life that you want. And I think allowing ourselves to dream is a really, really important thing for us to do. And that can look like a lot of things, like for people sometimes like literal dreaming, whether that's like vision boarding, writing down things that you want for yourself. scrapbooking, collecting images like as a visual way to sort of represent the life that you want. This can be more like conversations with people, like people that you really trust, like sitting down with someone or talking to somebody on the phone and like just Like ideating, brainstorming.
Like what if I did this? What if I did that? Like I've always wanted to learn Spanish. What if I took Spanish lessons? Or like I've always wanted to go to Italy. Like what if one day I went to Italy or whatever the fuck it is, like giving yourself time and space to dream. And it doesn't have to be a plan. Like it's not about like taking action or doing the thing because that's again, like us rushing into trying to have control and do something. but allowing yourself to just sort of be in this like very airy, floaty space of imagination.
And a lot of times the things that we imagine or dream don't end up being the things that we do next, but they create space for what's to come. They plant seeds, they open doors. One of my favorite acting teachers growing up said something in an action class that really stuck with me that I think about a lot. She said, work begets work. And what she meant by that was the thing you say yes to right here is not necessarily the thing that you're going to do out here. But by saying yes to this, you open three more doors and then you can choose one of those doors.
And when you open that door, three more doors open up. And when you open another one of those doors, three more doors open up and you would never be able to see what's behind this door without opening the first one. And so sometimes I think we can get stuck or we get in our own way by not allowing ourselves to just take the next right step because it doesn't feel like the thing we want or the end goal. But the reality is like we don't know what's at the end of the path. We have to just start walking.
And so taking the next right step is all we can do sometimes because that's next step. begets another step. And so dreaming is kind of like standing at the beginning of a new path and saying, like, what are all the different directions I could go? Like, what are all of the places I could go, like mentally, emotionally, physically? And then taking one next right step and holding onto that vision loosely. I had another therapist say something to me that I will always remember, which is hold the vision loosely.
So when we dream about something or imagine something for ourselves, holding on to something that we want so that we are moving in that direction, but hold it loosely because life is not going to go the way we always think it's going to. And that allows us to be flexible as we move towards something, rather than getting really attached, which can keep us kind of stuck or not allow us to move in a direction or pivot in a way that maybe we have to in order to get around something to still move towards the thing that we want.
So yeah, and as someone who has made a lot of change in their life and let go of a lot of things, I know that it's hard to dream. I know that it's hard to feel light. I know that it's hard to accept that things are okay and be in that space of okayness. because it feels so unfamiliar. And the more you allow yourself to practice being in that space, the more familiar it becomes and the more comfortable you can be with that levity, which opens up so much opportunity for you to dream, for you to imagine, and for life to possibly go in a direction that you could have never imagined.
So that's my little spiel for the day. I was going to read this comment. So true. Got a ticket to a concert a few months ago despite having no money or anyone to go with. I know it's not exactly the same thing, but letting go of the idea that I can't go alone or have to have it all figured out before. I love that. Yeah, so like letting go of this idea that you can't go alone is opening you up to going. And you have no idea what's gonna happen when you go there. Like you don't know who you're gonna meet, you don't know what the experience is gonna be like, you don't know how it's gonna inspire you.
you might fucking hate it. And no matter what happens, it's an experience that's going to teach you something. And by letting go of this idea that you can't go alone, you've opened up a lot of possibility. And so I love that. I think that's an amazing example. That's so cool. Okay, sweet loves. I made a longer video about this topic that I'm going to post today. So it'll be on my feed and I will be, this will be my new live time. So if you joined late or if you're watching this recording, I just got a new job.
So I'm a nine to five girly now. So my new live stream time will be 5:00 PM PST on Tuesdays. And I'm so excited to see you again next week. Okay, sweet loves, I hope that you drink a lot of water. I'm doing the same, trying to stay hydrated, that you're gentle with yourself and that you give yourself space and time just to dream.
