Leading With Love 💕

What's up, Cadre Sphere? Happy Friday. Yeah, it's Friday. I am Anila. I have been on the Cadre sphere for almost a year. But the last few weeks I have not been around because I've just been exhausted. It's been really, really tough the last couple. Yeah. But give me, let me know in the comments where you're, where you're hanging out with me from a little bit about me. I am a mental health tech entrepreneur. I pull out my hair, which is a mental health condition called trichotillomania. I pull mostly from my eyebrows and my eyelashes.

But a couple of years ago my husband caught me and I had no eyebrows after pulling one late night a few years ago and with him I shared my secret of hair pulling. And then a couple of days later I was pulling, pulling, pulling and. And he gently took my hand. He realized that it was happening because it's such a subconscious behavior and that was a moment of love. And the reason I am part of the Cadre sphere is because I truly believe that love makes change possible. This is a sweatshirt from a nonprofit I started.

And I have noticed that in the last few years of doing the work that we do with serving people with hair pulling disorder and sister conditions of skin picking and nail biting, that love is the answer and that that answer transcends. And it's all about reconnecting and shifting perspective on simply recognizing that those behaviors are your way of your body trying to love you, trying to help you feel better and self soothe. But they're not the best way to do it. And that when we choose love, we can heal.

When we choose healthier strategies, we can heal. And the beauty is that that really does transcend. Like the last few weeks have been really hard work wise has been stressful. Kids, we've been sick. You know, it's just been like non stop and the elephant in the room of sort of just the, the divide that we are living in right now. Regardless of, you know, which political party you prefer, the current events are not easy on anybody, you know, and it's been hard the last couple of months. And so that's kind of why I haven't been around.

I just had to choose loving myself and letting myself rest and sleep and just, just be with my kids. It's just really what I needed the last few weeks. And I'm feeling like I'm kind of kind of climbing out of that hole now that I've given myself that time and sort of rekindled that habit of showing love to myself. And hi Speak Wonder. It's good to see you. I tried to join your session today, I think it was, and then I don't know what happened. The app didn't work for me in that moment. But it's good to see you and I hope that you are doing well.

Everyone's got their own stuff going on and it's hard. It's hard to show up. It's hard to be there for others when sometimes you need to be the one having people be there for you. And so I'm glad that I was able to call on some of my friends and family to support me in the last few months and weeks. But I feel close to being back. You know, I think depression just kind of ebbs and flows. But yeah, my hope is to continue doing this on Thursday nights instead of Wednesday nights. So I'll update that and slowly begin to reshare my story of how self love was the thing that broke the mental illness within me.

And so with that, I hope that you all take some time before you go to bed tonight to think about who you love, send them love, make sure you are one of those people on that list and have good dreams. All the best I'm wishing you love, strength and awareness. Bye.