Make Your Dreams Come True!

Good morning. I'm just giving it a quick second. Having a little coffee as per usual. You know, the vibe. You know the vibe. You guys, I'm gonna give it another couple of seconds to see if anyone pops on. I just want to make sure we are going strong here, and I don't want anyone to miss anything. And we're gonna hope that the dogs are on their best behavior today. I really need to get, like, a separate room in my house that I can do this, but I just like to be in front of this window. It's such a vibe joke.

Good morning. Your name just gives me a lot of joy, so thank you for that. Marissa's here, everybody. Okay, we're cranking. I don't like anyone to miss anything, so I haven't started yet. So now that I know that people are in the room, let's go. Let's do this. Okay. Got my trusty notebook. You guys, you know the drill. Every week, I take this very seriously. And as always, we're gonna stay on theme. What's up? Speak water. As always, we're gonna stay on theme with how we make our big dreams come true, you guys, because I literally live in a place called dream stasis, where I never leave the state of my big dreams, living rent free in my head, and I never leave that vibe of making my big dreams come true.

So today I want to talk to you about crossing a big goal off of my whiteboard. Number two. Okay? If you hang out with me on Fridays, you already know about the anthem, okay? So I'm going to give you guys a quick update on that. But also, I I'm talking about crossing yet another goal off my list, a story behind this particular goal, a shamer hater who shamed me. And I want to give you that backstory. And I just think it's important to keep talking about the things that we're accomplishing with the people who celebrate our wins.

And you guys helped me do that. And I feel like the more I talk about the things that I'm accomplishing and how I got there, the more. The more permission it gives you to do the same thing and to share in this space. What's up, Luke? Oh, my gosh. All the people are here. Okay, so we're gonna get right into it. First of all, cheers. It's coffee. All right, you guys, so you already know, okay, this year, not only. I mean, I've had a lot of goals that I've wanted to check off my list, but I've always been in a really bad habit of not writing them down in a big way.

And you know who really got me into that? Luke, who's on this call. Write it down on something big. Like, last year it was. Or two years ago, gosh, it was on a huge, yellow lined pad of legal pad of paper to write down personal and professional goals. I still have those goals. And this year, it was on a huge whiteboard that literally sits in my living room that I stare at every single day. And it is right in front of my face. I mean, it's right there. So if you, first of all, it's not too late to write down your goals for the year.

We are not even through quarter one. So if you're not writing down your goals, you are not staring at them every single day. If they are not somewhere living on your phone. I know Kelsey, who's in the Cadre community, in the Cadre family. She puts her vision board right on her phone or right on her laptop. If you're not staring at your goals in the face every day, you're not going to be reminded, and you're not going to start ingraining your brain to get those things done. So we're talking about a number two goal for me out of my 14 massive goals that I wrote down this year.

It's interesting. I'm crossing off number 14 with singing the national anthem. And two days ago, I crossed off number seven. Let me tell you what that is two. Number seven is to appear more regularly on local tv. Now, I am not a trained media expert. I did not go to. I went to journalism school for a minor. I learned nothing about how to do a tv segment. I. In fact, everything in my life is self taught. Okay, you guys, I have no formal training for anything that I have been able to do. And we're going to tell a story about that in a second.

But I wrote down a huge goal this year because one of my other goals is to appear on a national network show. So I want to take my expertise to a national show. And in my brain, it's like, yeah, no problem. But, like, to the outside world, it's like, yeah, good luck. Okay. Everyone wants to be on the Today show. Everyone wants to do good morning America. Everyone wants to talk about their product. Everyone wants to promote themselves. But I have been dressing people for these morning shows for the last couple of years, and I thought to myself, which is what I always think to myself whenever I'm working with a high profile client, like, why not me?

Why not me? And then we go down the road of imposter syndrome. And we start to get, like, well, but, like, they're my client, and they're so well known, and they have 500,000 followers or a million followers, or they're nationally recognized. So I'm just not there yet. No, that is out the door. But in order to get to that place of really feeling ready. Cause you're never really ready. I have a friend named Angie Lee who says, ready is a lie. I think she's 100% right. When are we ever ready to do the thing?

You're never ready. You just have to do it. And it's like, I knew that if I wanted to get there, I needed to put a little step stool on my to do list. Step stool was to appear more regularly on local tv. Now, I didn't know how I was gonna get there. I have been doing channel three here for the last eight or so years, but I. I don't know how I'm gonna get there. I don't know who's gonna put me on regularly. So, anyway, I want to tell you a quick backstory before we get into this particular goal. When I started in the fashion industry early, I was working for somebody who was older than me, had children, seemed seemingly the perfect life, lived in a massive house.

I was working for her, and I was doing some nannying and, like, babysitting her daughter. And I helped her launch her fashion blog. I'm the one who laid out the blog. I'm the one who was writing code for her blog. I'm the one who helped her come up with her name. I was writing a lot of her articles, and it was a blog about moms style. Now, if you. You know, the vibe. I'm not a mom, but what I am is an expert in my field. And I was writing for this woman and seeing her go regularly on a local network to do.

To talk about fashion. And I would say things to her like, I really want to do that. And she would say back to me, oh, well, you're gonna need some media training if you want to do tv. And I was like, media training? Like, what do I need media training for? I've been an actress my whole life. I've been on stages. I've been pitching myself to companies and brands for a really long time. I have been doing this for a really long time. I have been in front of people for a. An awfully long time. No, sorry, guys.

So what do I need training for? Why do I have to. I've never been trained formally for anything in my life. I also had some comments from her I had asked to be with, to have my name written in the byline of some of the things that I was writing for her blog. And she said things to me like, well, you're not a mom, so I don't think that we should put your name attached to anything, because, you know, this is a mom fashion blogger. And I was like, I'm not a mom, but I'm an expert. And I've been dressing moms for as long as I can remember.

Hold, please. There's a ball under the couch. Okay. Oh, my gosh, you guys. Dog life. So why did I need to be a mom in order to write about the thing that I am an expert in? And it just felt so shameful. It was not empowering by any means. You could tell in that moment that there was maybe some insecurity there. She didn't want to share the spotlight with me. She wanted me to work for her. She did not want me to be her equal. And at that time, I was just getting started in passion, and I had no idea how to stand up for myself.

I also didn't think I was worthy. I hadn't really done anything in the industry yet, and I didn't have that worthiness that I now have. And I ended up standing up for myself and leaving her. And I do remember that I didn't feel like I had really overcome that unworthiness. But I do remember saying to her, like, it's like saying to, you know, a football coach that maybe, like, didn't play pros, but maybe he played in college or something who's now a head coach or on the sidelines for a pro sports team that, you know, oh, you're not really good enough to coach.

You're not an expert. You haven't done the work, you know? So sorry, dogs. So I felt like I needed to stand up for myself. I already knew inside of me that I had what it took. I didn't need somebody else to tell me, but I didn't really like. No, no. Okay. So anyway, soon after that, I used it as fuel. I ended up signing with an agency who represented me as a stylist. And an opportunity came up, and the director of the agency was supposed to go on channel three and wasn't able to do it. And she called me and said, this might not interest you.

However, I was supposed to go on channel three with a few models from the agency and do a fashion segment. I can't make it. Would you be able to stand in for me. Now, this woman had no idea what had happened to me in the past, and I was, like, without any media training, without having gone on any tv shows, this is live, too, so it's taped. Lies. Some of them are pre taped, but this was gonna be live. And I was like, I would love to go on channel three. And I really hoped somebody would see me. So I had this opportunity.

I nailed it. The host couldn't believe that it was my first fashion segment. And after that, I started appearing in her place. We were supposed to kind of swap off after that, but she just was like, you know what? You should just take it. I'm so busy. And I started appearing regularly on channel three without any media training. And then I got asked by channel 15 to come on and do a post Oscars segment, and then I got asked by channel twelve to come on and do some segments there, which, by the way, was the station that the first woman who shamed me was regularly appearing on.

I said yes to one of those, and then I. I stayed away because I had. I had my own path. I had my own channel that I felt like I belonged more on. And I just didn't want to, like, I didn't want to cross her path or step on toes. I really didn't want to make waves. I didn't want to start, like, taking somebody else's spot or whatever. But the whole point of it was, like, had I listened to this woman who told me that if I wanted to do something, I needed x training? Okay. Yeah. If I want to be a doctor, I have to go to med school.

Okay? If I want to be a dentist, I have to go to dental school. Okay? If I want to be the president. I mean, anyone can be the president. Just kidding. Whatever. You know what I'm saying? You guys like, but to go on tv locally as an expert in your field, there are chefs going on tv. They don't have media training. There's so many people going on tv to talk about their product or talk about something that they're an expert in that are doing it for the first time. We all have to start somewhere. So if I had listened to this person who was shaming me, what do you think would have happened?

I have now been appearing regularly on channel three for the last eight years, but, of course, during COVID nobody was really going on tv, and channel three was entirely restructured. And I have been really busy with, of course, the launch of rescue kit and everything that's happening in my life. So I stopped appearing regularly, not for any other reason other than just my schedule was crazy, but I would sprinkle one in maybe once or twice a year. And on my whiteboard as goal number seven, it says to appear more regularly on local tv, because for me, that is the stepping stone to getting to a nationally syndicated show like GMA or today or the Drew Barrymore show or wherever else I want to end up.

And on Tuesday, when I went on Channel three to do a Valentine's Day segment, the host turned to me and said, so, do you want to come on the show regularly? You can film two episodes. One will be live, one will be pre taped, and we will air you every other week for the rest of the year. And my best friend, who's my photographer, was there. She was taking some behind the scenes, looked at me, and she was just like, she knew. And I was like, yes, yes, I do. And we already have our next segment on the books, and I'm going to do a post Oscar show, which I have been wanting to do regularly.

And it is on my big bucket list to do one celebrity for the red carpet one day. All of that to say, you guys, that this woman who shamed me and told me that I couldn't do it is not the author of my story. She is not even a supporting role. She is not in my book. She is not going to determine what's going to happen for me. None of those haters drinking that haterade are going to come for me and tell me that I can't do something. And yesterday, I did an audit of all of the things that I've been able to accomplish without training.

Fashion. I got thrust into the fashion industry totally by accident. Not only that, I was a buyer for a store just because I was a regular shopper in there. I learned everything there was to know about the fashion industry with zero fashion experience. I came from the hairdressing and makeup world. Styling, self taught, didn't go to school for it. Product development, self taught, didn't go to business school. Launched a product. CEO singing the national anthem. I am not a. I didn't go, okay, I was a singer for most of my life.

But, like, I am not taking voice lessons every day. And I'm not a Broadway actress, and I am not a professional singer who's, like, in the recording studio. I made that happen. I did that. So the next time somebody wants to tell you how something should be done, I dare you to prove them wrong. I dare you to think outside the box. Don't even be near the box and quietly win. Just do it and show them in your own way. You don't have to shove it in their face. You don't have to tag them in your posts.

They don't even have to know that you're doing it. But go out and do it because you know you can, not because some hater thinks you can't. Okay. I just get really fired up about these things. Okay. I'm gonna go back. Okay. Yes. Oh, my gosh. Well, we've got some. Okay. Oh, my gosh. Goal seeker. Yes. Good point. D*** right you did. The stories we tell ourselves. Way to change the narrative. That's right. Fabulous saboteurs. Oh, I love that word. Can try to stop us, but they are not helpful. No, no, no.

They're not here to help. No. Get out the kitchen. Get off me right now. Oh, my God. Yes. I love you guys. Dream grabber, way to go. You may not have the formal training, but you have the experience and the talent. Thank you, Marissa. Not to mention grit and perseverance. And that's a great start. Like, you guys. Like, you can do anything if you just put your mind to it. And if you work toward it, and it just, like, really frosted my cookies, that somebody was like, you're gonna need media training.

I'll show you media training. No, I don't need it. I can do anything. Yeah. I mean, it's gonna take practice, but I don't need you to tell me what kind of training I need. You need training on being a nicer person. Anyway, I love you guys. Like, now I can give media training. That's right. That's right. I love you guys. So, anyway, that is my anecdote for today, and we are only in February, and I have 14 very lofty goals up on my whiteboard. Some of them may not see the light of day this year, but I'm starting to work toward them.

But to be checking two out of 14 goals off my list, that's singing the national anthem and appearing regularly more on local tv. Luke, do the math. You're good at numbers. What percentage is that? I don't even know. Two out of 14. Please, somebody help me. Anyway, it's looking good. 2024 is looking good. So you guys go out there, prove people wrong, don't listen to people. You don't need to live your life by somebody else's playbook. Throw that out the window. Don't let somebody else tell you how your ish is gonna get done.

So I love you guys. Thank you for being here. Always thank you for pumping me up. I hope this motivates you to go out, achieve your goals, write them down. Live your dream every single day. Do it excellently, do everything excellently. Pour your heart and soul into it. If you think I'm not having a custom blazer made for the national anthem, you're wrong. I talked to the organizer yesterday, and he was like, how much money are you spending on that? I was like, that's not for you to worry about. What is for you to worry about is that when I am asked to do something, I'm gonna bring it so hard.

I'm gonna bring so much heat, you're gonna need a fire blanket, Doug, okay? So don't even worry about the money. It's not about the money. How do you know? I'm not having my connections using my connections to get the blazer made. All you should care about is that I'm gonna bring my a game to the angel stadium. Right? See what I did there? I am. I'm an. I'm an honorary angel that day, you guys. Okay, now I'm taking this too far. I love you. I'm gonna let you go. This is not my stand up comedy act.

This is just how to make your big dreams come come true, okay? So go get your bejeweled blazer made and go show up in their face, okay? I love you guys so much. Happy weekend. Let's go. Let's go get those dreams. Grab them, grab them. Love you guys.