Brief welcome and small talk lead into naming the live topic: hustle culture and separating worth from productivity. This orients viewers and sets expectations for the conversation.
Brief welcome and small talk lead into naming the live topic: hustle culture and separating worth from productivity. This orients viewers and sets expectations for the conversation.
She explains that she generally doesn't tie her value to income or status, describing how her values developed and what she prioritizes instead. This personal framing helps normalize alternative ways of measuring self-worth.
The host explains what core values are, suggests looking at a values list, and describes a three-pass starring method to narrow down 5–10 core values then clumping similar words into themes. Viewers can follow this to identify what truly matters to them.
Using examples, the host demonstrates how identifying values helps check emotional reactions to productivity and money, make decisions (like declining overtime), and set boundaries. She also recommends starting with values to unlearn hustle culture.
The host notes that values can shift and suggests redoing the values exercise about every six months, then wraps up with brief goodbyes and practical parting reminders. This closing encourages ongoing reflection.
Happy Tuesday, Cadre crew. Hello. I hope this is working. It's June. Scary. Scary. Wow. Yeah. OK, yay, it's working. Hi, speak wonder. Hello, my love. How are you? How are you? We're here. We're doing it. It's June. We've entered a new month already somehow, which is just always wild to me, like. I feel like every time I go live, I'm like, how's this much time passed? But here we are, here we are. So today we're talking about hustle culture, how exciting. But really I'm gonna talk a little bit about like how to separate our value from our output.
So like how to separate. our worth from productivity, but also how hustle culture and especially in the US, this emphasis on making money, succeeding, and working and having a good career or whatever good means and how we can maintain a level of enough productivity that we stay alive, right? Because we have to feed ourselves and have shelter and all those lovely things. But separate our value from it, right? And this is something that I've actually, wow, for the first time on my lives, I feel like I'm gonna say something new, which is, this is something that I've always been good at.
Like normally I feel like on my lives I'm like, this is something I struggle with a lot, but I'm actually really good at this and it's something I've been good at most of my life, which is I have not ever attached my value or my worth to how much money I'm making, to what kind of job I have, to the kind of like, you know, what my status is, sort of, so to speak, in the world of career and finances. I do get stressed about being productive, but it's more of like a general, like, you know, am I being too lazy?
Like it kind of falls more into the category of like not being very good at resting. But when it comes to attaching my worth to like money and material things, like it's never been something that's hard for me. And I think that the reason for that is I, from a very young age, I developed this mindset or this way of looking at the world, which was, I really believed that what was the most important thing to me had nothing to do with money. What mattered to me was how I was treating people. What mattered to me was what my relationships were like.
What mattered to me was whether I was taking care of myself or the people I loved. And so my values did not include money. They did not include material goods. They did not include status or success or accolades or awards. And so I think when we think about how we separate our value from our output, we have to actually think about what our values are in the first place. So I think I've talked about this before, and I'm pretty sure I have a static video on my page about values and how to figure out what your values are.
But your values, your core values are essentially like They're essentially like words, but they're sort of like categories or themes that represent things that matter to you more than others. So like, if you Google core values list, you'll find a list of like 50 words that, you know, so it's stuff like acceptance, achievement, community, friendship, love, adventure, power, freedom, joy. there's just like a lot, there's a lot of different words, right? And so the values exercise I like to do is I take the whole list and I print it out if I have a printer, which I don't.
So, but I'm a very like, I like to write things, but if you have a printer, you can print it out. And I just, I start by going through it and I do an initial pass and I just put a star next to any word that stands out to me as like I care about that. I'm not filtering, I'm just like, do I care about that star? Do I care about that star? And then I go back through only the starred ones and I put a second star next to the ones that I really care about. Do that, do that, do that. And then I go back through and I put a third star out of any that are like, if I didn't have this, I would not feel like myself.
And by then, I usually have a list of about 5 to 10. And if you don't, that's fine. If it's more, that's fine. If it's less, that's fine. And then what I start to do is I start to draw themes. So usually what happens is like my big starred words, there's some of them that have things in common. So like a big starred word might be community and a big starred word might be friendship and a big starred word might be relationships. And I notice that like, oh, there's a theme there. Those are all kind of about relationships.
So I clump them together and then I choose whatever word makes the most sense. And that's one of my core values. right? One of my core values is relationships. And I start to clump the ones that I've starred and I can start to get a picture of like three to five core values of things that matter to me most. And I think when we're able to define what those core values are, it's easier for us in our day-to-day lives to separate from things that don't matter as much to us. And so when we notice maybe some attachment coming up around like, oh my God, I don't have enough money or like, oh my God, I'm not doing enough or my God, like I'm sitting on my ass too many hours a day.
I can ask myself, well, what do I value? Is one of my values success, productivity, money? If it's not, then I can let go of the anxiety I have around those things. So it's sort of a way for us to check in with ourselves and do like a little reality check around like, am I getting attached to this or stressed about this because it actually matters to me more than other things or because I have lost sight of what actually does matter to me? So I think that that's probably why I've had an easier time with not getting attached to my output because I know what those values are.
Like I'm pretty solid in what they are. And if I notice, that's not, let me just rephrase this, not rephrase, but let me just add, it doesn't mean that there aren't times where I'm not stressed about or getting attached to my output or my productivity or how much money I'm making. Those things happen all the time, but it's easier for me to pause and go, okay, wait, this is not something I need to actually get upset about or stressed about or beat myself off about. because it's actually not something that I value as much as something else, right?
And it can also help me make decisions around like, am I going to say yes to working overtime tonight? Or am I going to say no because I have dinner plans with my friend and my relationships matter more to me? So it also helps us set boundaries. It also helps us make decisions. And it just it's a really effective tool. So if you're struggling with like unlearning the hustle, separating your value from how much you're doing, just start by figuring out what your values actually are. Because if one of your core values is productivity or money, that's fine.
And then at least you know it and you can be like, okay, well, I'm stressed about this because it's something that I really care about. Spiel. Just going to read the comments. Also something that is good to revisit because our values can change depending on what's going on in life. Yes, I like to redo my core values every six months. because they change and it's good to know like, okay, am I still like, maybe like I'm struggling and like stressed more because there's actually a mismatch with my values and the way I've been acting and I need to check in on what my values actually are again.
So that's a really good point. Needed this. Thank you. You're so welcome. Okay, my loves. Well, I hope you have a lovely Tuesday. Welcome to June. We're here and stay hydrated. And I will see you same time, same place next week.
