Emotional Checkpoints 🚨

Good morning, Cadre world. It is Dr. Jessica Green. And today is, I call it Wonderful Wednesday. You know, it's a day that we woke up. It's a day where we have the opportunity to fellowship with co workers and friends. And the snow is gone. You know, good morning, Rachel. I don't know about you all, but we had some snow over the weekend in. Schools here in the area were closed Monday and Tuesday, so everybody's babies were home, full of joy and full of life and full of excitement. So I know my parents, my grandparents, and everybody else was ready for them to go back to school.

And they had to be honest with themselves that, hey, I enjoy these moments, but it's also time for them to go to school. So today is the first day where everybody's going back, including the students and the teachers. But one thing, you know, we think about, let's take in that moment of gratitude and say, hey, we have Wednesday of school. We have Thursday of school, and then Friday. So technically, you only have three days left. Three days left of school. So today, as we talk about personal growth and we talk about mental wellness, I want to focus on being honest with yourself.

Being honest with yourself. So, you know, today we are starting with something new, something simple, but then also something that is not easy. Being honest with yourself. We are not fixing, we are not judging, but our ability to just be able to notice and notice those changes. So in order to normalize what we call emotional fatigue. All right, so if you've been feeling tired, feeling disconnected, or even off without any clear reason, this live is for you. Because we've all been feeling that way, and sometimes it's hard for us to be able to name what we feel without judging it.

So I'm hoping, you know, as we talk about some relatable moments, you're just like, oh, my gosh, Jessica, yes, that is me. Because sometimes we have those days where we may say, oh, oh, I'm fine. But our body tells us a different story. And our body reminds us, like, hey, you need to take that time out and be able to hit that reset button. And then sometimes the tension isn't about what happened today. It's about what you have been carrying around quietly. Because a lot of times people don't see your storms.

You know, they don't see the things that you may go through because we tend to mask it. And if we're honest, we tend to skip the honesty with ourselves. And then we, you know, go straight to the coping where we're trying to quote, unquote, Fix it. As opposed to us being honest with ourselves and being able to manage it. And when we think about those unspoken emotions, they don't disappear. They show up in a sense of irritability. They show up as withdrawal, or they can even show up as exhaustion.

So if we think about our emotions and us again, being honest with ourselves, I want you to think about this. You know, our emotional honesty doesn't mean that we're complaining. Our emotional honesty does not mean that we are blaming others. And our emotional honesty, what it does mean is that we are giving those emotions and we are giving those feelings names, we are naming them. And in order for us to understand them and feel them, we have to name them. For example, we may say, I am not angry, I'm disappointed, I'm not lazy, but I am overwhelmed and realizing, hey, I have a sense of fatigue irritability and I am overwhelmed.

We may say I am not ungrateful, but we change that and we say that I am emotionally tired. So when we name our feelings and our emotions without judging them, they lose their power to run us. Because if we think about it emotionally, we always go straight to the negative. And sometimes that's just where our brains go automatically, straight to the negative. But I want us to remember and practice a 60 minute check in. Okay? And this is what it looks like. So if you're in your car, listen, if you're somewhere where you can write this down, write this down.

And if you know, you're not either, locations. Hey, the great thing about Cadre is that you can always find this on replay. So these are a couple of things that I want you to do. I want you to take that deep breath, you know, and we can even practice box breathing where we're taking four in, we're holding four, we're releasing four, and then we're breathing in four again. But I also want you to ask yourself, what am I actually feeling right now in this moment? And to do that, our body, we're going to have to take a pause in order to feel grounded, in order to take in our surroundings and be able to increase that intrinsic motivation and be honest with ourselves.

When we're talking about our emotions and being able to say it in a sentence without any explanations or even over validating or trying. This is what it sounds like. Right now I feel sad. Right now I feel overwhelmed. Right now I feel anxious. The emotion I've been avoiding is fear. I've been avoiding vulnerability. I've been avoiding being honest with myself. If I were being honest, I'D admit that I am nervous and I'm anxious and scared, but being able to say it out loud and being able to validate those feelings make them true.

And it also allows us to ask ourselves, okay, what can I do to increase my motivation? What can I do to increase my happiness? What can I do to make sure I am my true, authentic self? So this week, I want you to practice naming your feelings without judging them. And one wheel I like to utilize is called the emotion wheel, and it has, you know, the five core emotions in the middle. And then it leads to one emotion and then at least two to other emotions. And when I'm done with this live, I'm going to share it on the Cadre app, so be on the lookout for it.

But I love it because sometimes we ask about our emotions and we're like, well, I don't know how I feel. I don't know. But we can go to that wheel and we can name those emotions and also increase our emotional intelligence. And when we think about her emotions, we do not have to act on them, we do not have to explain them, but we just have to tell ourselves the truth. So this is my call to action for you. Check in with yourself on a daily basis, at least once a day. And sometimes when we wake up in the morning, we can ask ourselves, ask our spouse, our partners, our kids, what percent are you on today?

When we get home, asking them, hey, what percent are you on today? So we'll know how we need to move forward and what it looks like. And honesty is beginning, is the beginning of healing and it's the beginning of that connection directors and what does it look like? And it's going to be those individuals that you could be when you need to talk to them, they're ready and they're also ready to armor up. And, you know, what we talk about stays between us and doesn't go any other place. So when we think about real growth, real growth does not start.

Continue to build connections and always be true to yourself.