Rosie opens the video with greetings, a brief note about tech and the weather, and says she's speaking off script to share what's on her mind this morning. This short intro sets the tone for a candid, personal conversation.
Rosie opens the video with greetings, a brief note about tech and the weather, and says she's speaking off script to share what's on her mind this morning. This short intro sets the tone for a candid, personal conversation.
Rosie recounts attending the public memorial for a child killed in a recent school shooting, describes her personal connection to the family, and admits her mental health has suffered. She underscores how community grief affects her and the difficulty of recognizing and asking for additional support.
Rosie explains concrete actions she's taken to support her mental health, including adjusting her consulting schedule for more morning rest, increasing therapy frequency, and stepping back from social media. She describes why these changes feel necessary and affirms being proud of asking for help.
She invites viewers to pause and ask what they need, who can support them, and to imagine a 'dream day' to identify one small thing to implement. Rosie suggests creative practices and tiny habits as accessible ways to move toward feeling more rested and engaged.
Rosie shares a family outing after the memorial where a mix-up meant her daughter missed meeting a favorite character. She describes how they sat with the child's sadness, validated it, and helped her transition to enjoying the game—highlighting naming feelings, asking for needs, and holding hope for next time.
Rosie thanks the Cadre community for holding space, reflects that grief and light can coexist, and leaves viewers with a call to action about change and rest. She ends with gratitude and well wishes for the week.
Hey cadre. Happy Monday. Good to see you all. I'm Rosie Nest. I'm coming to you from South Minneapolis on this kind of, you know what? It looks really foggy as I look out, but then I look up and there's light. There's sun coming. So hopefully to be sunny day, I'm coming from Minneapolis. Y'all, the last few weeks I've had some tech issues, so my fingers are crossed that I don't have tech issues today. But I just wanna be real to tell you where my heart and my head is at this morning. Um, you know, I, I tried to do some planning for these conversations and, um, be thoughtful and share things that might resonate with you.
along with our themes for the month. And I'm going off script today, which is hard for the achiever in me. Ooh, hi, Rosie of the velvet voice. Ooh, velvet voice. I'm gonna, um, I like need to trademark that, I think. Thanks, Big Wonder. Good to see you. But I'm going off script today, which is hard for the, um, planner in me, but I just have to tell you where my head is at because, um, so yesterday, um, My husband, daughter, and myself, my two and a half year old daughter, we went to the public memorial of Harper Wiske, who was one of the two children killed at Annunciation Catholic School, the shooting in Minneapolis a few weeks ago.
And I have a personal connection to the family and just seeing the support of not only the community being there, But hearing Harper's parents speak about how vibrant and light she was, they just personified her as light, was so incredibly inspiring and heartbreaking. And my mind, my head and my heart are just there right now. It was a beautiful day in Minneapolis. This was an outdoor memorial. It was at Lake Harriet, one of our amazing lakes in Minneapolis, which I feel really privileged and lucky to live close to.
And so we walked over and had this really gorgeous walk over as a family and went to the memorial of the family. I met up with a coworker. there and we all sat together and we cried together and we held hands and we hugged and we laughed at some of the stories that were shared and my mind is just there. And so what I've been thinking about with that and personally is you know I've just acknowledged and I think I maybe need to acknowledge a little more that my mental health has just really not been great because of it.
understandably so but like leaning into recognizing what else I need in this moment to continue to heal and process and my healing to someone maybe on the fringe of this tragedy on the fringe of this tragedy but very much like interconnected as I put a lot of investment in my community and the people that I see walking down the street and the people that I choose to be in community with, you know, with my friends and family. And so it's like I'm on the fringe, but I'm also really in it. And just calling out that there are seasons where you just need a little bit more, you need more support.
And asking for that support and first recognizing it and then asking for it is hard. So I have changed my work schedule a little bit. So the work that I do, the work that I do, I do a lot of different work, but the work that I do is mainly consulting work. And so I've moved my consulting work around a little bit so that I have a little bit more flexibility in the mornings once my daughter's off to daycare, my husband's off to work, and I can just create space for more rest. Resting usually for me looks like going on a walk by myself.
Or maybe it looks like going to yoga class. Just having time and space to be reflective is something that I need more of in this moment. So I've tried to build my schedule, my like day-to-day life around what I need in this moment. That's one thing. The second thing is honestly, I've bumped up my therapy. I have been in therapy for a long time. on and off I'll say I'll be really consistent and then I'll be less consistent I'll be really consistent and then less consistent and in this moment I've been less consistent and I've bumped it way up to be consistent doing it every other week and that feels really good um feels like I really need it like it'll really help my mindset um another thing that I've stopped started to do which you know I think is the reason that Cadre exists is I have stepped away from Instagram.
I have decided that I am going, I do post a lot on LinkedIn. That's a part of my business and so that's a part of my work, but I've decided that I'm going to be doing it at a different rhythm so that I don't have to be quite as on LinkedIn. just to kind of step away from social media in a more significant way and that's felt really good my husband has also stepped off um he's on Blue Sky and is that Blue Sky? I don't even know I don't even it's not it's basically like the ex not ex version he's on that one okay he's on that one and Instagram he stepped away from them and so it's just been this good reset where we're I think as a family just assessing like what are things that are making our anxiety worse than they usually are.
Social media is number one so let's re let's change our relationship with it as a family. Um my husband and I my daughter's not on social media and honestly hopefully never will be. That's my hope maybe for her. Um And what is the care that we need to feel supported beyond the care that we provide for one another within our family unit? And for me, it was like I need therapy and I need more space for rest. And I'm proud of myself for recognizing that in these types of moments. And I would just encourage you to pause and take a step back wherever you're at on your journey, whatever thing you're navigating, whatever thing feels hard, and just ask yourself, what else do I need?
Where else do I need support? Who else can I ask for support from that I haven't already engaged? Or a question that I always love to kind of check myself on if I'm in a moment of grief or just feeling challenged or just not feeling quite as locked in or engaged is what does a day in my life look like when I feel like I'm rested or I'm locked in or like it's kind of like a dream day. What does that look like and how close is my reality to that? It's a really good check-in and it's good you know it's like in times of ease I think it's like oh well my day looks like this and yeah my day travels and that's great but in times of challenge It can feel like those things are far apart, but they're really not.
Because you can pick one thing from that ideal day and implement that maybe even tomorrow. Being like, I always find that when I draw my ideal days, there's always creative that's a part of it. Like, I wish I had time to write or had time to play piano or I had time to meet a befriend and brainstorm and like and it's like well I I could play piano for 10 minutes in a day I know I could do that maybe I couldn't do it for an hour and a half maybe I could but like what's stopping me from doing it for 10 minutes if I if that's a part of my dream day and I feel like I want to get closer to that how do I do that so it's a good challenge that I would encourage you to do this week Find space for what you need and whatever you're navigating.
Ooh, speak wonder, dream day, not overly scheduled. That's real. That's a real dream day, I think. A dream day, just rest is actually, can actually be a dream day as well. So thank you for listening to that. I just, that's really where my head and my mind have been. And so what I so appreciate about the Cadre Sphere is that we can come as we are and where we are and share with you where we're at and not have to put on the face and the everything is great and everything is fine. And sometimes it's not.
Sometimes it's not fine and you don't feel great and you feel like you need more support than you usually do. And that's okay. And I love that I can contribute to the normalizing of that because it's really important. I think that's the only way through. I think that's the only way through. So after my family left Memorial, we walked back home and we had planned to go to a baseball game, Saints game here in St. Paul, Minneapolis. And we planned this for a long time. My husband saw that they had Bluey and Bingo as special guests at the game.
If you're not familiar with Bluey and Bingo, Bluey is a really famous children's TV show my daughter loves, much like many toddlers is really obsessed with them. So my husband got tickets and it had been on our calendar, I think since like the spring. And so we were all really looking forward to it. But we didn't really rush to get there because we had the memorial. We didn't rush our way. We were like, we need to be at this memorial and we'll be here once we need to be. The game will go on, like we will be there.
And so we got to the game probably. We probably got there like 45 minutes after the game started, which we knew and we weren't nervous about. And then when we got there, my husband, as we're walking up, realized, he's like, I think I bought the wrong kind of ticket. like I don't think that we have the right tickets to be able to meet or see Blue and Bingo and so panic on his face and I'm like oh no my daughter is wearing her Blue and Bingo t-shirt we've been telling her I mean for weeks about this baseball game and she's been so excited she's been watching Blue on repeat to prepare for this and Yeah, granddaughter is obsessed.
See, Bluey is a following. It really has a, she really has a following, which I love. So we get in, we get our tickets again, we go in and my husband starts like asking people like, is Bluey around? Where can we see Bluey? And nobody really knew. and then finally we asked the guest information and they said yeah you had to have this certain ticket and it was actually like a special like VIP event before the game they weren't even out during the actual game it's just a normal game um and I was just like so disappointed I was so disappointed and so was my husband and we're like and now we have to break this news to our daughter who just keeps like looking for Bluey so we broke the news to her our hearts broke she handled it much better than I thought she would she was she said I'm sad and she kept she said it a few times like but I want to see Bluey and I'm sad and it was the first time that I heard her say I'm sad and we didn't try to fix the sadness we just said it's okay to be sad it's okay to feel disappointed because we're all really excited to see Bluey and Bingo um and so she she just kind of sat in it for a little bit and we said when you're ready we're sitting down and said when you're ready we're gonna you know we're still at the game this is still your first baseball game, which is super exciting.
So when you're ready, we'll go play in like a little kids area and then we'll get some ice cream and we'll watch the game and this will be really fun. And so we sat with her for a little bit and she told us when she was ready to, you know, kind of be done feeling in her feelings. A few minutes later, it was hard to wait. I was having a hard time waiting because I was like, I feel so bad. I want to fix it. I want to fix it. And instead we just said, Yeah, I can be sad for a little bit. And then she popped up when she was ready and she said, Let's get ice cream.
And so we got ice cream. And then when we're done with ice cream, she said, I want to watch the game. So we watched the game. She sang all the songs, she cheered, she danced. And then she said, I wanna go play on the playground. And we did that. And we had this really fun afternoon. And I was so proud of her for naming what she needed. She said, I'm sad. And now I need ice cream. And now I need to play. With the circumstances that she was given. And she, you know, we asked her at the end, like, Did you have fun?
And she said, Yeah. She's like, We'll see Bluey and Binko next time. When they're here next time, we'll see them then. And so it just was a good reminder of sitting in your feelings, asking for what you need when you need it, and hanging on to some hope that, you know, next time in the future, it'll happen. So toddlers for the win with these life lessons, I guess. Cadre, thanks for letting me be real today. Thanks for letting me be honest. Thanks for sitting with me in my moment of grief and sadness.
And, you know, the thing that I left with leaving that memorial that I left with the most, honestly, was action. Change. Being a light. Those are the things that were transformative about that experience. and they lived alongside the immense grief. But those two things can exist and I think that they do. So I'm going to leave you with that. I hope you all have a wonderful week. I'm so grateful for this community and I hope you have time to rest in this week. Bye cadre.
