It is still August. On Fridays, a lot of people speak from the grief and loss space. If you zoom out the aperture, it is change. When something changes, there is a response. And that response in external things creates an internal response.
Morning, Cadre. I believe it is Friday. It is still August. But we're in those 12 days where the state fair is happening, which means it is the unofficial beginning of the end of summer. Hey, Carrie, no matter where you are and how you're doing, you're in the right place.
On Fridays, a lot of people speak from the grief and loss space. If you zoom out the aperture, it is change. When something changes, there is a response. And that response in external things creates an internal response. So on Friday, you often have the opportunity to dive into dancing.
Life is a collection of rooms. Who you spend time with in each of these rooms amounts to the value of your life. In the grief and loss context, you know, things are heading towards change. Be in the room that you're in with the people you're. in it with.
Morning, Cadre. I believe it is Friday. Huh? How'd that happen? It is Friday. It is still August. I'm from the great state of Minnesota and we are very proud to have the biggest, bestest state fair in the nation. Because Texas the doesn't play by the rules. They have a forever running state fair. So different, different story. But we're in those 12 days where the state fair is happening, which means it is the unofficial beginning of the end of summer. And it kind of feels like it this morning. The beginnings of an ends and the ends of her beginnings speak wonder.
How are you, my friend? Nice to see you. You. You know, Cadre is that place that you can come to and you're feeling great and you got a full tank and you want to work on some stuff. You want to move, you want to wiggle, you want to shift, you want to grow. Cadre is also the place you come when your tank is empty and you're feeling backwards or underground. Hey, Carrie, no matter where you, where you are and how you're doing, you're in the right place. I'm really glad that I'm here. I'm glad you're here.
I know what I know and I care about you. Theresa. Nice to see you, my friend. You know, on Fridays, you often see a lot of people speaking from the grief and loss space. Our friends over at St. Croix Hospice and all of their wonderful community members often chime in to speak about that part of our formula. And that formula is if you, if you ever participate in anything, partake in anything, love anything, work with anything, you will experience grief, loss. If you zoom out the aperture on what grief and loss is, it is change.
If you look at grief and loss from an organizational standpoint, it's change management. When something changes, there is a response. And that response in external things creates an internal response, and that is feelings from the heart and thoughts from the mind and perceptions from the senses. So on Friday, you often have the opportunity to dive into dancing with those conversations I want to share, as I often do, I guess. A moment from one of my favorite TV shows and from one of my favorite episodes of my favorite TV shows, Season 3, Episode 12 of House House, starring Hugh Laurie, who plays a.
What I would say a misunderstood doctor of a made up department of medicine called diagnostic medicine. In essence, their job is to go. We're going to take all of the weird cases that nobody can solve. And we like our job as this team of four doctors is to work on only these cases. So a lot of times they Work on no cases until there's one case and they work on that one case and they do nothing else other than work on that one case. In season three, episode 12, there is this patient and she refuses to see any other doctor other than Gregory House.
If you don't know the character Gregory House, little known fact, he's the television character I've related most to in my life. He I consider to be one of my best friends. He's highly, wonderfully misunderstood, yet highly, wonderfully vocationed. He knows he's doing what he's supposed to do, and to his detriment, he will not do anything else. In this episode, this patient only wants to work with him. And he's not a person who likes people being in wanting or in relationship with him. He will push everyone away.
Not from a oh, but from a no, I don't. I do what I do in the way that I do it. And that is I look at people as puzzles and not people. So whenever a patient goes, you're my doctor, he goes, and I'm passing you off somewhere else. Anyways, this patient will not be seen by anybody else. There's this really wonderful scene where he shouts, why? Why do you need me to be your doctor? Like, I don't. I have nothing to give you. Like, you are not interesting to me. And she raises this point that life is made up of rooms.
And it's who you spend time with in each of these rooms that amounts to the value of your life. And that I beat that image to a pulp on the daily because it makes sense to me. Life is a collection of rooms of waiting rooms, of buses, of airplane lobbies, terminals of parks, of parking lots, these rooms of Cadre live streams. If you look at the value of each of these little rooms that you share with as being the value of your life. The value is who you share each of these rooms with. So right now, Carrie and Mel and Teresa and Lilinch and Speak wonder.
This is valuable to be able to go in this moment, we are with one another. And that is. That is true. What we do with that is where the value lies. So in the grief and loss context, you know, if you are in the anticipatory grief stage where things are changing, you see that things are heading towards change. Yeah. Be in the room that you're in with the people that you're. That you're in it with. If you have lost someone, something, some job, some responsibility, some relationship, and all of a sudden that room has changed its configuration.
You have been moved out of it, others have moved out of it. Consider not only who is currently in that room, but the ghosts of the people who exist in that room with you. Because you will find those moments, right? Grief is not something we get through, it's something we move forward with. You'll find moments where one of those spirits that you carry with you will momentarily leave for a second, just to test, just to play, just to fly. And for that moment, if you're not paying attention to who is in that room with you, but you're holding on to who you want to be in that room with you, you may miss the opportunity to see the value of your life.
That's my Friday little live stream for you. As you know, I'm here every single day. Tomorrow alive and kickin senior citizen rock ensemble that I direct is hitting the big stage at the Minnesota State Fair. So I won't be on my regular time because we'll be doing soundcheck, but I will find time tomorrow to bop on in and say, hey. But in the meantime, check out all the wonderful pathways and people, the professionals and the peers, the stories, the lives, the posts, the ideas, the questions that exist right here.
Because it's all for you. We'll talk to you later.
