Shannon from Cadre is a human who lives with anxiety with something called cptsd. She also is a caregiver to a child with autism. The song is called Letting Go. The artist is Angie McMahon.
Shannon from Cadre is a human who lives with anxiety with something called cptsd. She also is a caregiver to a child with autism. Shannon comes on this Cadre livestream on the Cadres room on Fridays to talk about what she's learned in therapy.
Stephanie Irwin: For me, I like to have control in relationships. She says how often do we tell ourselves that it's okay to make mistakes? Irwin: Think about what you could apply this to in your life.
The song is called Letting Go. The artist is Angie McMahon. I want you to listen to this song and listen to the spirit of freedom it gives you to make mistakes. I wish you a weekend full of grace for yourself.
Hi, Cadre. Okay, Round two, this is Shannon from Cadre. Welcome to my live stream. I was having some tech issues. I am hopeful that I am back alive, so hopefully I will see you join me. But actually, round two is better. I got all my bugs out first time in. So welcome to my live stream. For those of you who don't know me, my name is Shannon. I am part of the Cadre team. And I am not a clinician. I'm not a mental health professional. I'm a human who lives with anxiety with something called cptsd.
And I also am a caregiver to a child with autism. So it's great to meet you all. And so I come on this Cadre livestream on the Cadres room on Fridays to talk about what I've learned in eight, nine years of therapy. Now, as someone who lives with all those things, and hopefully to give you some practical advice for what worked for me when I was managing some stuff. And so I'm here this week to talk about a song. A song that my friend Colleen Lindstrom shared with me in the last couple weeks. As I was going through this time where I was really struggling with doing something new relationally, that felt so scary.
So some of you out there might relate to this. Maybe you're a control freak. Maybe you're type A. Maybe you have high anxiety. Maybe it's easier for you to be in charge because you get to make the rules. That's the case for me. Hi, Steph. Irwin. It's so good to see you. I missed you. I haven't seen you for a while. Thank you for being here. So I have some relational stuff. I've talked about this before with you guys, but relationships can be hard. Any kind of relationship. Familial, your children, work relationships.
And for me, I like to have control in relationships. I like to. To know the rules of relationships. Oftentimes work can be easier for me because there are rules, there are guidelines, there are markers of this is good and this is bad. And in the last few weeks, I have had relationships that are vague, relationships that don't have rules yet, relationships that don't have names of what they are, which makes me crazy. I'm gonna be really honest with you. If I don't have rules, I freak out. That's hard.
So I was talking to Colleen this week about it, and one of the things she shared with me was this song. And the song is called I'm Gonna Pull it up here on Spotify. It's called Letting Go by A woman named Angie McMahon. And I'm gonna play it for you a little bit here in a second. But what I love about this song is that the refrain at the end of the song, and I don't know the music, the correct music terminology, but the words that play over and over and over and over are, it's okay. It's okay. Make mistakes.
Make mistakes. And the music kind of, like, goes up, and it's like, it's okay. It's okay to make mistakes. Make mistakes. And by the end, this woman, this artist, Angie McMahon, is just not screaming, singing beautifully with great energy that it's okay to make mistakes. I feel like we need to hear that more. I started listening to it, and, you know, it builds. This music builds. And I'm going to play it again for you in a second. But how often do we tell ourselves that it's okay to make mistakes?
We don't do that. Our culture doesn't do that. Making mistakes feels icky. Making mistakes relationally is so hard sometimes. It's hard to be vulnerable. It's hard to be vulnerable at work if you don't know how to do something and to say to your boss, like, I don't know how to do that. It's hard to be vulnerable in a friendship if you're feeling something and you're afraid if you speak your truth, that person might have a reaction. It's hard to be vulnerable, honestly, in any way. Let's be honest, right?
And so hearing this song this week, I'm gonna play it, actually, but I want you to listen with the. With. With thinking in your head about something that's hard for you to let go of, or something that's hard for you to not control. And that could be internally, that could be externally. That could be a child going to college. It could be something you said that you wish you wouldn't have said. But I'm just going to play this for a second, and we're going to listen, and I just want you to think about now.
I hope this is actually going to play. Oh, let's do this. I want you to think about what you could apply this to in your life where you may have felt like this before, and just think about how you might behave differently if you heard this. This music. So hold on. Give me one second. Let's hope I can do this. Let's do this, friends. This might not go well. Shoot. Okay, hold on. I'm gonna try again. Give me one second, friends. Let's see. This is gonna go. I promise. It will. It's gonna go. It's gonna go.
Just bear with me. This is my tech issue. Multi. Oh, it's not going. All right, you guys, it's not going. I don't know why it's not going and this is horrible. So I apologize. But here's what I want to tell you. I'm going to find this song and I'm going to. Or I encourage you to find it. It's called Letting Go. And the artist is Angie McMahon. M C M A H O N and I'm just going to read you the lyrics. It says, I might have spent six months lying on my living room floor. I might have been sick then.
Well, then sick some more. I might have been prouder than me than I've ever been. I've been learning about letting go, how to do it without my claws scratching the surfaces. I've been learning about wasting time and closing some doors, hoping to open more down the line. And it's just not. I'm not doing it justice, you guys. So I want you to find it. I want you to listen to it. I believe I actually linked to it in the community feed. But listen to this song and listen to the spirit of freedom it gives you to make mistakes.
And that's my lesson this week when I was freaking out and I was in my car and I was stressing out and I was feeling like I didn't have control over this relationship that is unnamed. And I played this over and over and I turned the windows down, I rolled the windows down in my car and I drove to work and I just kept saying, like, it's okay. It's okay to make mistakes. And I sang it probably for a good 15 minutes straight. I just hit play, play, play. And honestly, that out loud voice telling me that it was okay to make mistakes is a huge deal.
And so I just want you to hear this Friday on this live stream, which has had some mistakes, some technical difficulties, and now I can't get this to play. But it's okay to make mistakes. And so whatever is going you're going through in your life right now that you don't think you're doing a good job doing, I want you to hear that it's okay to make mistakes. It's okay to make mistakes. So I wish you a weekend full of grace for yourself. I wish you a weekend with joy and that you can find a thing that works for you and that makes you feel good and where you walk away knowing that you're a whole human and making mistakes is part of life.
So thank you for living through this mistake filled livestream with me today and I will see you guys soon again here on the Cadre sphere. Thank you for being part of this community and thank you for supporting others in community here together. Have an awesome weekend you guys. Will see you soon. Bye guys.
