Rachael: To think about beginning again at the end of January is really nice. She says it gives us permission to, like, start late. El: Don't be afraid to begin again.
The more we can start visualizing something that we want, the more likely it is that it's going to happen. When we visualize something, we can actually start to dream and start to take action towards it.
Okay, my loves. I will see you in February and if there's anything that you are starting over or beginning again with, I'd love to know. And yeah, we'll check in next week and see how the weekend was and how fe it's starting for you.
Happy Thursday, Cadre crew. I am coming to you live from my new work corner. I set up a standing desk Here, let me show you. I'm very proud of this. I built it over the week, and I updated all of my wall art so that it's all pretty. I did that because my physical therapist told me that a standing desk would help with hip pain. So we're a standing desk girly now. Wow. We're. It's the last week of January. I don't know how that happened. That's wild. It happened very, very fast. Hi, Emily. And, yeah, I really.
I just. I can't. I can't believe next week is February. That's wild. To me. This. I feel like this always happens, too, where, like, January feels like it's going to be, like, the slowest month ever. Hi, Jim Burrell. And then, hey, Rach. It just flies by. And then February is all short anyways. I could rant about that forever, but as you may or may not know, starting this, this month and for the rest of the year. Cadre, to think about beginning again at the end of January is really nice because we've had a whole month to kind of actually get a feel for where does our energy actually want to go this year?
Like, what do we actually want to start? And who do I actually really feel like I want to be? And where am I? And where am I really starting from? Instead of coming off of, like, the high of the holidays and New Year's. New Year's and, like, when I think we kind of have some grandiose ideas that maybe are not realistic or sustainable. So. And I think it also gives us. Gives us permission to, like, start late. Like, it's okay if, like, you had all these goals on January 1st or dreams or visions for yourself, and you haven't started.
You can still start. Like, it's so arbitrary to say that, like, you have to start January 1st, and if you don't start January 1st, then you're not doing it. So giving yourself permission to start late, I think is a really. A lovely thing is as well. And also, like, permission to start over as many times as it takes. Like, I. I literally have a tattoo. It says it's going to be backwards because I'm on my camera phone, but camera phone, front facing camera. Don't be afraid to begin again. And. Oh, no.
Why am I always frozen, Rachel? Like, I'm at home with full WI fi. Is it frozen for anyone? El, I have started over so many times in my life. I've started over in my career. I've started it over with school, I've started over relationships. I started over in new city cities. And every time I do, like, it's sort of. It's sort of the same, but there's always some difference, right? Like, I, you know, like, I think each time I have to start over or choose to start over, there's shame, right? Like, there's shame about something not working out or going the way we.
We thought it was gonna go. There's disappointment, there's grief. And. And I think that it's been really important for me to learn that it's okay to like, allow myself to have that moment, that season of grief dis it shame before immediately jumping into feeling optimistic, excited, and hopeful. Because I think if I, you know, if I think back to the times that I've had to start over, if I didn't allow myself to experience that grief and feel it and. And be okay with it and have compassion for it, the shame just got worse.
Like, the shame would just multiply 10, like, in tenfold because I wasn't. Wasn't ready to. To take the next step. And I would feel. I feel. I. I would feel like there was something wrong with me or, like, I'd get really down on myself on here. You know, here I am again, like, having to start over. Like, am I ever going to be able to finish anything I start? And I'm now realizing, like, you know, the older I get, like, starting over is not a failure. Like, if thinking it is, like, the most courageous thing you can do, it means that you're not giving up.
It means that you still believe in a life for yourself. It means you still have dreams. It means you still have visions and goals. And it means that. That you are choosing, despite something not going the way you planned or wanted to, to put one foot in front of the other and keep going. So I think starting over is very brave, and I think it's something that a lot of people are actually really scared to do. So if you have to start, I think that you're far, far further along than people that have never made a single change in their life.
And that's not to shame anyone that has been doing the exact same thing for their whole lives either. Like, there's not a right or wrong way. This is more to speak to the shame that I think a lot of people feel about starting over and trying to release some of that. So, yeah, so I think, you know, as like, January comes to a close, like, this is a great opportunity to, like, check in with yourself and say, okay, were the things that I said I wanted to do this month or this year that I haven't started yet?
Do I still want to do those things first? First and foremost? Because if you don't, that's okay. Like, sometimes we realize, like, I made this resolution or this goal, and that was not actually not something I wanted. That was something I thought I was supposed to do or something I saw somebody else on the Internet say. So then I was, I, like, I should do that too. So do I actually want to do that? And. And what's one small thing that I can do towards it, right? Like, not like, how do I do it all, but, like, what's one small thing?
So, for example, like, I told myself that this was going to be the year that I moved out of Seattle. And for the first two weeks of January, I wasn't, like, actually doing anything towards that. And last week I was like, if I really want this to happen, I have to take a step. And obviously moving is not going to happen in a day or a week or a month. And if I try to, like, make it happen that fast, A, I'm going to get really overwhelmed, B, it's not going to happen. So I have to. I had to do one small thing.
And one small thing is I can search for apartments, right? com or zillow or Craigslist and just start looking and saving. And that might not be Hydra junk food junkie. That might not get me an apartment or make me move, but what it does is it starts me moving my energy towards something that I want. And the more I start to move energy towards something I want, the more the energy continues to move and picks up things along the way. Like, the more I've been saving apartments, the more I start to hone in on, oh, this is actually.
Actually what my budget is going to need to be for the kind of thing I want. Or this is actually really the neighborhood that I. I want to be in. And I can start to focus in more solely on that instead of getting overwhelmed by an entire city. And I also get to start visualizing, right? The more we can start visualizing something that we want, the more likely it is that it's going to happen. And. And you can believe that rather because you believe in Manife Station or because when we visualize something, we can actually start to, like, we can start to dream and we can start to take action towards it.
Like, if I want to make a painting, but I Have no vision of what kind of painting I want to make. Like, let's. Like, I just know I want to make a painting. Like, and I go into it. I'm saying, like, a lot. Geez. And I go into an art store. Store. It's going to be very hard for me to walk out of that store with a canvas or materials or really anything to actually create a painting if I have no vision of what I want to make. But if I have a vision of, like, a rich, like, deserty landscape with, you know, with mountains and sunshine and warmth, then I go in knowing, okay, I'm making a landscape so I know what kind of a size of a canvas I want.
I know I want. I'm. I'm visualizing a desert, so I know the colors that I need to bring in. Like, by. By visualizing something, we create direction, we create specificity, which allows us to actually take action. So I think it's. It's helpful to just start with one small thing because that can help us start to develop that vision. You bring up from the back of your mind what you want to put in motion. Yes. Love that you wanted to move somewhere far, just not Seattle. I'm wanting to move to California, so not too far from Seattle.
I'd like to stay, you know, within. Within reasonable distance from my family. My family is here in Seattle. And I really like being close to. But I. I am a sunshine baby. I need some warmth and. Excuse me. And I think I just need a different scene. I need a change of scenery. I've been in Seattle for three years now, and I grew up here and. And I just. I need something different. And the thing. The thing about that too is, like, I know that if I go somewhere else and I don't like it, I come back.
Like, I have evidence that I am able to come back. So, you know, I'm going to give myself a year, and if I hate it, Seattle will be here. So reminding myself that I have permission to fail. Right? Like, that's the other thing about beginning again is like giving yourself permission to fail. So when we start something new, we're taking a risk. We don't know if it's going to work out or not. So we have to give ourselves permission to fail, which is a really, really big part of it. So I need a beach.
I need a beach too. I mean, we have beaches here, but they're like, rocky, very, very cold. So it's not. Doesn't really feel like a beach. In the summer. You can, like, you can go Way out. But it's, it's a very different vibe. So Arizona is warm and would be cheaper to live there. That's true. I think also I just know that like I've, I've moved a lot in my life, lived in different places and had to like start completely from scratch in terms of like being in a city that I don't, don't know anything about not having any friends or community, being far from my family.
And I know that for my own mental health I need to choose somewhere that has a level of familiarity, proximity to family and, and some, some element of, of community baked in. And I've lived in LA before so it's familiar to me. I. It's a two hour flight from home so it has proximity and I have some friends that live there so I, you know, I have a few points of contact so I, I see this as like a stepping stone. Like I don't see myself through long term but like it's a good next. And it feels like a safe risk if that makes sense.
Like there's risk in that it's still going to be a new city and not my hometown and you know, it's going to be brand new and it's not like a completely foreign, I've never been here before, I don't know anybody kind of a situation. So I'm doing that just to sort of protect my, my well being in some capacity. But. Okay, my loves. Wow. I will see you in February and if there's anything that you are starting over or beginning again with, I'd love to know. And yeah, we'll check in next week and see, see how the weekend was and how fe it's starting for you.
Oh my goodness, I cannot believe it. But okay, I love you very much and I'll see you next week.
