How To Glow Up After A Break Up

Hello cadre. Welcome to my life. It is 5 46. Sorry. I am a little tardy to the party. I am Michelle. I am a dating coach from unstuck by Michelle and. Um, I'm here today to talk about. How to glow up after a breakup everyone's dream. Am I right? (laugh). So, um, if you see me looking over, I just took some notes on some things that I wanna make sure to say. Because I think this is really important. So as a dating coach, I work with a lot of people who are trying to get back into the dating world.

Some have just gone through a breakup, some are going through a breakup. Um, but a lot of us. Can relate to having something not work out. And then it impacting us moving forward. And so I made. Today, this, this a, this title about how to glow up after a breakup. Um, not to make it so that your ex. Can regret losing you, right. We all. Low-key love that, but that's not what this is about. This is about getting back to feeling like you. After a breakup, uh, um, I know personally after breakups in the past.

I don't handle 'em well, (laugh). Um, my often I would like drink too much or party too much, or just be stuck in my. Feelings or, um, I would make it about my worth and value and just. Leave me in a funk for a little bit. And Juan, it makes sense to feel disappointed and to feel hurt. When something doesn't work out, that is okay. And it makes total sense to feel that way. And in the same breath we wanna get back to our old selves again. Right. We wanna build up that confidence. We wanna get back to self-care so that we, when we're ready to.

Start ding again, we do it with more confidence and we feel like us. So one thing that I think is really fun and important. Um, after a breakup is to do something that makes you feel hot and. Yeah, I mean, hot, like sexy. So have an outfit or do your hair. Makeup, um, do like dress in a way that makes you feel good and then go. Out right. You don't have to go out and. Get wasted. Right? You don't have to do any of that. You can just go out to a coffee shop. You can go out. To dinner with a friend.

Um, but oftentimes, like, I think after a breakup, we kind of just. Feel blah. Right. I remember after one breakup I'm wearing them today. My Zulas. Zulas ah, they've been with me through the good and the bad. I remember it was like the saddest scene ever. Guys. I was wearing these doulas and this like flannel. I. Totally didn't match. And this guy had dumped me and I was just walking around with my dog. And just looked like this sad person. And then I saw someone I know wrote by in a bike they're like, Michelle.

I was like, so I think that it is important. To make yourself physically look and feel good. Hello, speak wander. Um, to make yourself look and feel good, like get out of your freaking pajamas. Okay. Get out. Of your pajamas wash your face. Wash your hair take care of your appearance. Because when we take care of our appearance, that makes us feel. Good. Right. And that is one of the ways that we can glow up or feel more confident after a. Breakup the second one is upgrading your self-care. If you've ever been in a breakup, you know what it's like when you go to bed at night and you.

Lay there. And then you just think about all the ways it could have went differently. Right. And uh, we know that ain't it, that ain't it. And so after our breakup, I want. You to really pour love into your self-care routine. And so that can. Be meal planning. That could be making sure you have a good nighttime routine and that you're getting enough sleep. If you. Haven't yet check out my, um, cadre livestream. I think it was last. Week or the week before about sleep and how that impacts dating.

Cuz sleep is essential. We need good sleep. Um, move your body. Get outside, do not hibernate like me, like in MEbA. Um, up your self care with making plans with friends, like getting a haircut, if you need to. If you want, if you can afford it to get a massage. Clean your space, right. Make sure that your laundry is done. When we clean up our space, we take care of our self care. It's gonna help us move. Through the breakup with more ease. Right. It's all part of the glow up plan. Right? It's take care of yourself.

Get dressed. Do your hair. It's make plans. All of those things. And all those things are gonna help you to build your confidence again, because after a breakup, it can make you. Feel like a little shaky sense of self. Uh, can make you wonder if there's anyone out there for you. It can make you doubt yourself. It can make you question your worth and your value and here's the deal. There's more than one person for people in this world. When a breakup happens, we don't see it in that moment, but it is often a good thing and other.

Doors will open, but when we're in it, it's foggy, right? It is foggy. And so don't wait until you feel confident again, to start living. Your life make plans. Plans say yes to things. Try something new. Spend time with your people who remind you, who you are. Put, yes, I love it. Put funny events on the calendar. Something that you're looking forward. To, um, I remember, uh, oh, I was just gonna, what was I gonna say? It was. Probably so good. It's came into my brain and it's left and I'm sorry.

Um, but just, you don't have to wait till you're more confident doing. These things will help you to feel more confident. And here is a big one. Ah, soak this one in. Stop making your ex the audience, you know what I mean? If you know what I mean? So don't post for them. Don't check to see if they've watched your story. Don't measure your glow up by if they've watched your story. The goal is get to a place where you don't care. If they notice you. Right. When I work with people, like one of the steps that I, I always recommend is UN.

Unfollow your ex have your ex unfollow. You. Right, because when you post stuff on your story, you do it because you're sharing with your loved ones. What you're doing. Not to like, get back at your ex. I agree though, it feels good to have a glow up moment to climb that mountain. And to have your exe, right? Sure. But that's not what it is all about. That is that. That's extra right. (laugh) um, but this is about you. Right. This glow up isn't revenge. It is about feeling more confident so that you can get back out there and, and date again.

Because, like I said, there's more than one person for you out there. You can find love at any age. And more often than not a breakup is a good thing. Sometimes we just can't see it. In that moment. So take a second, like an opportunity. A breakup can be. An opportunity to ask yourself, what do I want to be in this next chapter? Right. What do I want for myself? What do I want my goals to be? Your glow up your glow up can be like a physical goal. It can be an emotional goal. A social goal. All of those three, it can be any of those things.

Uh, the hottest thing after a breakup is rebuilding a life. You. Genuinely like that is the hottest thing you can do again, is rebuilding a life that you. Genuinely like okay, stop trying to be something that you're not just get back to who you are. And add to that. I try new things, right. Um, so yeah, again, the glow up after a breakup is hard because there's a lot of. Feelings involved. It's okay. To be sad and disappointed. And you gotta take care of yourself. You gotta set goals. You have. To take care of your body, right?

Change your clothes, wash your hair. Make those plans put those. Um, fun activities on your calendar so that you can look forward to them. All of those things. So that you can feel. Better and more confident. And if you, your ex sees you along the way, Hey, (laugh), that's a bonus. But that's not what it's about. It's not for them. It's not for them. It is for you. Your future self, your future relationships. So that is it. If you have any questions, you guys, you can hop. Um, into my DMS on Instagram, on TikTok at unstuck, by Michelle.

I am on here weekly. If you have anything you wanna see or hear me talk. More about, please let me know. I'd love to hear from you. Again, unstuck by Michelle. Have a lovely. I almost said Friday, have a lovely Thursday. Friday's Eve.