Luke opens with greetings, small talk about Minneapolis and his weekend, and then announces he’s going to talk about embarrassment. Luke tells the story of his 13‑year‑old son Drew’s first competitive golf event, describing high scores, peers' reactions, and the shame Drew felt.
Luke opens with greetings, small talk about Minneapolis and his weekend, and then announces he’s going to talk about embarrassment.
Luke tells the story of his 13‑year‑old son Drew’s first competitive golf event, describing high scores, peers' reactions, and the shame Drew felt.
Luke reassures Drew, flips the moment into a growth opportunity, and explains his personal stance that at 45 he is largely unfazed by others’ opinions.
He urges viewers to intentionally put themselves in vulnerable, potentially embarrassing situations to desensitize shame, points out that mockery reflects others’ problems, and references Sarah Blakely’s idea of turning embarrassment into a superpower.
Luke shows the Bob Dylan mural near his office, signs off, and encourages listeners to embrace embarrassment as a positive, growth‑provoking experience.
Good morning everybody. It's Luke Wentland. Happy Monday to you and yours. Sorry, just got a little bit late start here. Little late start on the 8 ball. It is what behind the 8 ball a little bit. It is what it is. We're downtown Minneapolis, one of my favorite places. The times they are changing with Bob Dylan, young Bob Dylan, middle age of course, as he begins to age, the times they are indeed a changing. Isn't that the truth with isn't that the truth with AI? Hope everybody's doing well. Hope you all had a great weekend, a good, relaxing, incredible weekend.
I got the hair taken off, shaved. I'm a fresh start of life here. No, but like I said, I hope everybody's doing well. Hope you had a relaxing weekend. For those individuals that intended refresh, I hope that was an excellent experience for you all. Enjoyed some time with maybe friends, getting to know new people, all the things. But I'm here today to talk about embarrassment. My son had a big golf tournament this weekend, so he's 13 years old. This summer was his first summer to try to experience golf events.
And as we know, youth sports and youth in general can be kind of cruel. And so Drew's new to this and new to these tournaments and new to learning all about it. And he Fortunately or unfortunately, whichever way you look at it, had a really embarrassing experience. Meaning, the individuals that he golfed with are really good young 12, 14 year old golfers. They're exceptional. Exceptional young talents, all the things. And Drew's learning. Drew's learning. Drew's learning how to golf. He's trying to figure it out.
And while he's doing all this, like I said, fortunately or unfortunately, there were some very embarrassing moments. 10 is a limit of a hole. So when you get to 10, you have to kind of like pull it off and you're done. And so he didn't get there, but he had a nine and he had an 8 and he had a couple of these other ones. And so when the other kids are on the hole, we're like having to report scores and you have to tell somebody else your score. Somebody's like 4, 5, 4. And then Drew has to say, 9.
Or it's, what's your score on this hole? Three, two, three, 4, and then Drew pipes in and says 7. So he went through this experience, which was kind of like not playing his best golf. It was, we call it the FFT, the blanking first time, participating in some of these events. And, when you don't do your best and then you huddle around at the end and everybody goes through their scores, somebody says 77, somebody says 82, someone says 83, and then Drew pipes in and says 107. And so, he had one of those kind of embarrassing days where his game wasn't the best.
And the part that the part that's kind of frustrating about it is how some of the other kids showed up, which kind of they snicker a little bit when he said his scores or they kind of, looked away or they kind of laughed a little bit or whatever. And that's kind of what happens sometimes, when you try to do new things and you become, he was teeing up on one of the last holes and he said, dad, this is embarrassing. And I said, Drew, this is amazing. This is absolutely amazing. To go through these embarrassing moments in life, there's going to be many more of them.
Many, many more. And the quicker you can learn how to deal with embarrassment in life, the better you will be. Trust me when I tell you, like at this stage of the game, I'm 45 years old, and I really mean it when I say this, like I'm not embarrassed about just about anything. I'm not. So somebody says something about my vehicle. So someone says something about a house. So someone says so I could care less. Like could care less, could care less. Like if my wife is happy and my kids are healthy. I really don't care what anybody else thinks about me or the word embarrassment.
If I try golfing and there's a lot of people watching and a ball goes off to the right and it doesn't go well, I don't care. And I know it's hard for a 13 year old to experience thing that where everything matters at a heightened level of like what other people think of you, what other people think of your score, what other people think of your shot. the very first thing that he said, like when he was done, he's like, this is going to post online. Like everybody's going to see it. And I'm like, so what?
So what? Some of your friends see your score and it wasn't great. You know, the best thing you can do is come back to him and just let him know, like, I didn't golf my best. I didn't golf my best. It happens. It happens to everybody. I remember, I told Drew on the way home, I'm like, Anthony Edwards was 0-11 shooting in like last year's playoff or something. He was a low 11 from three. He was 0 of whatever. And his very first response was, it's probably not going to be the same next time, right?
Probably not going to be the same next time. and so I told Drew, I'm like, hey Drew, like it's gonna be good. But like I said, the snickering and those kids behind whatever, and I walked him off and you gotta realize, you gotta know who Drew is. Drew's my son. He's really smart. He's an old soul. He's super, super intelligent. He gets it. The kid is awesome. And I told him, I said, just remember, these kids, the reality is, like these kids that only find joy in laughing at you, odds are, buddy, they're going to probably be working for you someday.
And I was just honest with them. I'm like, if this is the only way that they can find joy is making fun of other people, like embarrassment has nothing to do. That's the least of their biggest problems, for their biggest problems, right? If the only joy they can find in a Sunday is to make fun of you and your scores, don't worry about it. So my push to you all is this. What can you do to put yourself in embarrassing positions? What can you do to actually put yourself in embarrassing positions so therefore, like dancing in front of other people or going to a comedy club or trying a new outfit on?
put yourself in embarrassing, put yourself in embarrassing positions where other people are looking at you and almost kind of judging you, saying, God, I wonder what he's doing, I wonder what she's doing, kind of giving you that side look. Like, great. Like, this has nothing to do with you. This has everything to do with them, right? So, you know, for Drew to walk off and, you know, he had a little teary-eyed and whatever, and like, we just completely flipped the script. And I'm like, buddy, like I just gotta tell you, like I am so proud of you and I'm so proud of you for going through that embarrassing day today.
You are gonna learn so much from this and you're gonna grow so much from this. Like if everything is peaches and cream in your life, buddy, I'm gonna tell you, will never grow. Like this is a phenomenal growth opportunity and never forget it. So the next time you have that feeling, that floating feeling, that feeling where you might feel embarrassed, I just wanna tell you, lean into it This is awesome. This is just what the doctor ordered for me. I need to feel embarrassed today. I need to feel this way.
This is a great thing for me. Flip the script on your mind when it comes to embarrassment. I know that Sarah Blakely always talks about this. She always brings it up and says like, the embarrassment got me down. In my 20s, embarrassment got me down. In my 30s, embarrassment became a superpower, meaning I'm unfazed. Like, if you can become unfazed in this world, in this life, that people can say stuff behind your back, can laugh and snicker at you, can do all the things, I will tell you, you will become unstoppable.
Truly unstoppable. Doesn't mean you can be an asshole, that's not what I'm saying, but you will become unstoppable. that you do no longer care what people think of you. That you're if there is embarrassment or not. So with that, I got to give you one more downtown look. This is a great spot for us. I love this so much. This is the Bob Dylan mural. It's beautiful. That's where we office out of way up in the top corner, that brownstone building up there, that's ours on the 11th floor. This is the beautiful area of downtown Minneapolis.
And that red building over there is where I go get coffee every day called Caffeine, Caffeine. And then the Timberwolves play right on the other side of that building over there. That's where our Timberwolves are. But you all take care. Have an amazing day. I hope all of you have a level of embarrassment this week and you kind of like laugh it off and say, that was awesome. What a great feeling. that I got embarrassed today. And if you have children like I do, lean into the fact that like, this is a really good thing.
Like, you could tell like, hole 12, hole 13, maybe you wanted to be done, maybe you wanted to pull it off. I'm like, nope, we're just getting started, buddy. Like, we are gonna finish what we started. We are gonna go through an embarrassing moment. This is awesome. So take care, you all. Embarrassment is.
